Uninvolved

Sometimes it just doesn't work out. For the gentleman (and I do actually mean that... we're not doing the need for sarcasm font right now) whom I was "involved" with up until last night... it simply didn't work out. The feelings never did quite catch up to where I believe and he believed they needed to be.

However, we are remaining friends. And we mean that too.

I did take some simple yet valuable lessons from the relationship though. I'd like to share them with you now.

#1 - Communication is key. Talking about my feelings and thoughts may not be the easiest thing for me when it comes to my intimate relationships but it is ok to do when in them. I do not think that was something I have experienced before... or maybe it has just been a really long time. I am still not exactly "good" at it but my mind is open to trying it now.

#2 - My body is not perfect but that doesn't make it unattractive. Being in my own skin, especially with extra weight on me is not the easiest thing in the world. But - it turns out - I don't need to be perfect to still be attractive. While I still would like to lose the weight, I am no longer going to be convinced that men are immediately disgusted by me - just because of a few extra pounds.

#3 - Spit it out. If it's not working, say so. Resentment and anger starts once you have gotten past the "this just isn't working" stage and you're holding onto it anyway. (This one goes in with communication is key, I guess but I'm relating this more to the casual dating scene.)


Many more lessons to come with other people, I am sure. I am just simply grateful that these lessons were of the gentle nature. But - that's what happens when you're dealing with a "gentleman". Honestly, I can't say enough good and respectful things about him. He really is a great guy and he's the one who was all about talking about stuff... that's a rare find in a man.