Settling

Last night I got the oppurtunity to hang out with a newly engaged couple. As in, just engaged yesterday. They were both glowing (despite one of them having a chest cold) and I have to admit I believe they're right for each other.

Which leads me to think about couples in general. These two are simply not settling for one another. They really, really enjoy each other's company and they're very attracted to one another. However, how many couples that are engaged or already married aren't actually thrilled? I know many people settle into relationships for many reasons. Hearing of a once divorced woman, about my age who said about her new fiance "he'll do" shakes me to the core. Does the guy realize that she sees him as only that? "He'll do"? Would he be so thrilled to be marrying her if he knew she said this about him? Shouldn't she be just as thrilled as he is? Isn't that only fair to him? One day he's going to wake up and probably feel taken for granted... and then what? Do you stay married to someone who's not your "soulmate" or do you walk away? What other issues will this kind of situation lead to down the road? They say that any issues you have before you get married only intensify after the walk down the aisle. If your biggest issues is how many TVs to have in your house, you're good. If your big issues include secret keeping and lack of communication from the get go... is this a blueprint for divorce?

I guess for each couple, only time will tell. And all sorts of things happen in life that can bring people closer together or tear them apart.

I just know that for me, I don't want to settle. I'm not even willing to settle for a boyfriend I'm not thrilled about let alone a husband.

Settling sucks. Just wish more people would notice that's what they're doing and step out of the situations that settling brings before it's too late.